Say No to the Dating-Industrial-Complex

BY her own admission, Sara Cambridge was "totally cruising."

She spent hours trolling online dating sites, sending e-mail messages to potential mates and creating "a real connection," which would invariably sour into deep disappointment within the first five minutes of an actual date. At which point she would return to the sites, send more e-mail, make another connection and suffer another snap disappointment. 

Finally, there was the left-leaning writer, who took her to a Japanese tea garden and, like so many of the others, seemed so perfect from his resume.

Lex Returns

I've been on my own for two years, and it has been an interesting journey. What I found is that the best people to date are the folks who just got out of a marriage, and are recently divorced or separated. This is contrary to conventional wisdom, but I believe it to be true.

Why?

These folks have had enough of a bad relationship and are ready to try the next big thing, whether that is serial dating or a full-on relationship. They are looking for fun, something lite and breezy, which happens to be exactly what I'm looking for. Might be long-term or it might not be. Neither of us cares. We just move forward and see where it goes.

This is how it used to be, no? You know, back in the good old days of dating (however you define that time period).

But then what happens?

Ah, this is the critical part.

The Ugliness (part 2)

The Ugliness (part 2)

In an ideal world, spouses who get divorced would never have to see each other again. If a marriage is so awful as to end in an expensive, time-consuming, and emotionally wrenching legal proceeding, who would want to make matters worse by subjecting the former couple to the same interpersonal problems after the divorce is final. Better to just move on and not look back.

The Ugliness (part 1)

The Ugliness (part 1)

Shortly after Thanksgiving of 2014, my then wife of 19 years sends me an email. “I think I need some time away.” After Christmas, she said, she was planning on taking the kids and either 1) moving in with her 65-year-old dad 60 miles away or 2) renting a townhome 15 minutes away.

Faking Your Death to End a Bad Relationship

Dating can be hard. It can take time to find a keeper and sometimes two people are really just not meant to be together.

But what happens when you're not into your date but they won't get the message? 

Yesterday we asked our readers if they could beat a bad date story which ended in a visit from the paramedics- one got in touch with an unbelievable tale and we had to share it.

Ann Gray, 29, from Somerset, told us that she had been seeing a man she met on an online dating site.

After the third date Ann invited him around for a meal but later made up her mind that he wasn't for her - fair enough, right?

She said: "I called it a night and decided that I never wanted to see him again. Luckily, he didn't live in my town."

When she tried to let her date down gently, it was clear he wasn't getting the hint - so she told him outright that it 'wasn't working for her'.

But that didn't do the trick either, as Ann explains: "He continued to message me and the day came when he sent me one stating 'I think we need to have a date tonight! I will be around your house in 30 minutes.'" What did she do?

Another Bogus Profile

When I first started blogging here about online dating, I observed that I had been the object of desire for many a young, hot women. Initially, it was an ego boost. Then I figured out what was going on. 

Adam Braverman Loses his Cool

 Adam Braverman Loses his Cool

Well, that didn't take long.

The stress continued to rise in episode two, and finally reached a breaking point for Adam. Yes, the most mild-mannered and even-tempered Braverman lost his cool.

Episode #2 begins with Adam's world continuing to make his head spin, only at a faster pace.